7 keys to building self-confidence :

1/ Forgiveness: First of all, we must understand the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt can be caused by the consciousness of wrong behavior. You can look at what you did, realize that you've done or said doesn't match up with your morals or who you are. The bright side is you can apologize try to make it right and act differently in the future. Shame comes with a growth mindset ( I did something bad but I can do better in the future) Whereas, shame is focused on the self. Shame eco says( This is who I am, I'm bad, I'm a failure.) It's more like an emotional fixed mind-set. Quick comparison: Guilt: What I did was bad, I made a mistake. Shame: I'm bad, I'm a mistake. ➡️ Guilt is focused on the behavior, wears shame is focused on the self.

Accept that you're going to feel overwhelmed temporarily. You have to know that everyone feels ashamed at a certain step in the life journey. Mostly because of hidden unconscious messages that keep popping up from time to time. Many of us have voices in their mind that shame us by echoing certain things said to us as kids or teenagers such as you are stupid, ugly, weak, thin, fat, silly... Unfortunately, we don't realize that we keep those negative messages on playing mode. Well, It's time to let go of that destructive self-talk. If you have flaws and you are struggling or hurting, well you are just part of the human club. Nothing about your appearance, career, family, social status or whatever else ca, cost you the society membership or make you unworthy of love and respect. Forgiving yourself for your previous mistakes and accepting your flaws is an ongoing practice. Keep in mind mistakes are more likely to happen even if you are too careful. We are human beings after all! Most importantly, Forgive yourself for the made mistakes and try to change your behavior into a better one. 2/ Resilence: It's the power of being able to stand up after falling and keep moving despite the circumstances. Never let anything beat your faith in yourself. What really keeps us down is ourselves, when we let those voices get to us. Have faith in yourself and trust your capabilities and keep trying. Just remember that all successful people you know, had bad experiences but they never gave up. On the contrary, they stood up, tried once and twice and maybe a hundred times until they succeed. 3/ Stop playing the victim: Stop blaming others for your failures and for your problems take responsibility."It happened" no matter who's responsible or what was the circumstances. What's done is done! so what can you do to fix it? How can you get over it? Practice gratitude will help you see and count the blessings you have but you never valued or pay attention to them because you're busy counting what you don't have. Blessings come in different shapes in our lives. It can be materially (health, house, food, family, money...) or morally such as (others care and love, safeties, the lessons you learn from experiences...) Ask yourself, what can I learn from this experience? Be grateful for learning a lesson even if it was in a hard way. Eventually, complaining, crying, depressing and all those negative things that you definitely don't need. So instead, learn your lesson and move on!

Shift your mentality from Victim to Survivor. No doubt that bad things happen to all of us. Try to adopt the saying of

"what doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

Quick comparison:

A victim asks how long it will take to feel good While a survivor decides to feel good no matter what.

➡️A victim is jealous of others' success while a survivor gets inspired by it.

4/ Stop comparing yourself to others:

The only acceptable comparison is to compare your old self with today's self. Your previous life with your current one. How did you improve and what can you do to make it better. Comparing yourself to others will only make you feel low and bad about yourself and your life. This leads to the fifth key which is:

5/ purpose of life: Instead of comparing yourself to others and dragging yourself to the circle of negativity and maybe envying others. Stop for a while, think about what's wrong with your life and make it right. Think about what attracts you in others' lives or characters...take notes and make a plan, starting by figuring out what you want from life. how you want your life to be in the future. Turn them into goals (big-small) and start working on them. 6/ Habits: Build new positive habits that will serve your goals and help you build self-confidence since we are talking about it in this article. Try playing sport as an example. Exercising is a good habit, it will help you to build your confidence by reducing stress boosting your mood and improving your sleep. Regular exercise can help you build your self-image, physically and morally. When you feel good you have more energy and a clear mind, this means you can work better on your goals. Remember to choose the right habit for you. look for something that interests you and suits your goals. 7/ Step-by-step: Please note that confidence is something that you can build and work on it step-by-step. There is no such thing as a button you click on it to have self-confidence.

Confidence comes from trying and putting efforts into it. Keep in mind that your story isn't over, yet to be written. practice makes it perfect, so keep trying and don't you dare give up. You may fail in a test or an interview but this doesn't mean you are done. It means you have to change your strategy or work harder. Don't stop because you are tired, stop when you reach your destination.